It just happens.
It probably already has...
if not, it will.
You're involved in ministry.
You invest yourself
your ideas & creativity,
You give yourself to the people that God's called you to
But it still happens
A few of those recipients get restless,
stop liking what you're doing,
discontinue their involvement
and arrive at the conclusion that YOU,
are the reason their lives are not going well.
You're the one who is called to love them!
You're the one who HAS been loving them.
Of course you're human,
of course you've failed the perfect-test,
but you LOVE them!
You've given & given to them and many, many others.
But ... it's still your fault!?
A wonderful pastor's wife & I had a short but formidable
conversation about this recently.
Try to separate yourself & your personal life from your ministry?
Keep the two apart?
I think NOT!
If you're truly giving yourself
(and all those areas of your life that are listed above)
then it's impossible to separate ministry from self.
If you love people ... that's who you are ... it's you!
You... anytime, any place.
Not limited to "classic ministry moments"
Love's gunna hurt.... it does, it will, it already has.
But love is wonderful!!!!
The call of God to ALL His followers
(not just "ministers")
(and as Toby Mac said many years ago... "Love is a VERB!")
We have to keep smiling,
& knowing that it hurts,
all the while keeping our arms open to the "hurter,"
so they'll realize they're always welcome back into our lives
continue fighting to keep our hearts open to everyone else,
whether we know them yet or not,
whether they "deserve" it or not (in our opinion)
because, quite simply...
JESUS keeps on loving me
& I often find myself
wearing the "hurter" badge in our relationship.
"We love because He loved us first."
1 John 4:19