Have you noticed that it's often our tendency to clam up,
stop communicating, keep things tucked inside
when we MOST need to express them?
What's the deal?
Maybe guilt? ...
"We shouldn't think this, we're Christians, we're supposed to turn
the other check."
"The other person should be the one to initiate this conversation."
"I have to cool down first, then say something."
(but that was weeks ago)
"Saying something will just make it worse."
(but being quiet just breaks things down anyway)
Maybe the Martyr syndrom?...
"I'll just suck it up. No biggie."
(but it is or you wouldn't still be thinking about it)
or Maybe any one of a zillion other reasons...
Ephesians 4 (several verses)
"Be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other,
making allowance for each other's faults because of your love."
"Instead, there must be a spiritual renewal of your thoughts and attitudes."
24 "You must display a new nature because you are a new person,
created in God's likeness – righteous, holy, and true.
25 So put away all falsehood and "tell your neighbor the truth"
26 And "don't sin by letting anger gain control over you."
27 for anger gives a mighty foothold to the Devil. "
I have to check my own heart & motives first (through prayer).
Then proceed with humility and caution.
How do you decide when you should speak up?
How do you motivate yourself to speak up,
to confront, to say what's going on inside...
without being a jerk or full of accusations?